You just ignore it and you choose to be happy.
When people are rude or I find that they're offensive bla bla bla I get annoyed and angry.
But when I'm calm and happy, it's easy to understand that there may be reasons that cause people to become rude and it doesn't bother me that much. also when I'm busy with other interesting stuff.
Note Keyword : Calm and Happy and Busy with interesting stuff.
I even still get angry at stuff that's happened to me at the past, it was like 3 years ago.
It's crazy how I'm still holding on to that unhappy angry feeling right ?
Here's how it went :
I asked my friend to buy me a CD, I wrote the singer & album name on a piece of paper and gave it to my friend.
So he bought me the CD, but it was a different album, so since the CD shop was near my friend's office, I asked him to exchange it for me.
So he did, and got me another CD, but it was still the wrong one.
(My friend didn't check the CD, he's one of those people who asks for something and pays without checking the thing, but a good friend though ;p)
Anyway, I was so annoyed, so I called the shop and told the guy that it was the wrong CD
so he told me to just bring the CD back and exchange it with another one.
then I asked him, "Do you even have the CD that I wanted?"
then he said "No, but we have other stuff"
Unbelievable, right ??!!! So this guy was just trying to sell any CD to me.
So I asked him to just refund my money and he said "It's only 15$ anyway, what's the big deal?"
at that point I knew that I couldn't talk to him anymore and he's not going to refund my money and whatever I say is not going to make things better so I just hung up.
End of story, but up till now I couldn't let it go.
When I'm reminded of that story, I get angry and annoyed and I just can't understand why someone would behave like that.
So I know I have to let go, forget and forgive and let go.
Letting go is so simple, but I find it so hard to do.
Why ? because I don't want to let go, because if I hold on to that angry feeling, I know that I'm a better person than that CD guy, that I'm the victim, that I'm innocent, I think that's why I hold on to that.
But let see,
I know that when I'm calm and happy and busy with projects/works that I'm excited about, that little annoying story doesn't really bother me.
And I also know that if I get angry, My health is also at risk, I'm ruining my own health, inside and out. So it all depends on myself how to react in similar situations.
People are not going to stop being rude, there always will be annoying people.
So I have a choice, and I want to make that effort.
I will ignore it
I will forgive.
I will forget about it.
I will let go.
I choose to be calm happy.
and on top of that, I'll always get myself involved in an super interesting project so I'm always focused on exciting stuff and no time for other unecessary things.
I want to control myself, I want to be happy no matter what the situation is.
What about you ?
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Worry worry worry
We all feel worried from time to time, and for most of us, we can't control our feeling worried.
So How do you control it ? How do you stop worrying ?
I myself worry too much, I think.
I worry on the littlest things.
One time, I was in Milan, Italy (study purposes) and I wanted to renew my permesso di soggiorno (permit of stay, you need to have this permit to stay in that country, so even if your visa is expired, you can still legally stay there.)
If you've been to Italy, you know how crazy the bureaucracy is.
It was hard the first time I obtained my first permesso di soggiorno, there was a long line , we all had to wait in line hours before the office opens, the bathroom was extremely dirty-unusable, we had to wait for hours and hours and hours to wait for our turn, the officers were unfriendly, plus my Italian was at a beginners level. It was really a horrible day.
So to renew the permesso, all I have to do is go to the nearest appointed police station *if I'm not mistaken, it's been a few years, I forgot*
I got all my papers ready, but I was so worried about going there, I pictured different situations in my head, what to say, what to ask, I was worried that they were going to be mean to me, I was worried there were gonna be a long line, I was worried that I needed to pee but there was no decent toilet, I was worried on the bus on the way there, I was worried as I entered the building.
But it turned out, there was no line at all, the officer was nice, He checked all my papers, and simply told me to come back in 2 weeks time to get my new permesso di soggiorno.
So I was worried for nothing !!! If I had known, I wouldn't have worried so much. I would just relax.
But the thing is, I didn't know so I worried so much.
For most of the situations in our lives, we won't know what will happen in the future, whether it will turn out bad or good.
We all need to live in the NOW.
So in my case, I was worried for nothing, everything turned out fine. but I spent days, hours, worrying and making myself feel miserable.
My feeling worried didn't help anything in anyway.
If I felt worried and things turned out bad, my worry is not going to make things worse or better.
If I didn't feel worried, and things turned out find, it's not going to make things worse or better either.
So I choose not to feel worried, because it is useless.
Worrying is totally pointless.
I'd rather relax myself and hope for the best result that may happen from doing the best that I could possibly can.
So next time, in whatever things I do in my life, I'm just gonna make sure all the preparations is done well, everything is ready, I'm gonna do my best and I'm not gonna worry, I'm just going to relax and hope that everything will work out fine.
I will try that and hope for the best.
And I also know this, in the simplest situation or even at the worst extreme situation, We should leave it all to Him.
In whatever situation, do your best, and everything else depends on Him.
Some things are out of our control no matter what we do, so instead of worrying, just do your best, then let worry go, have total faith.
Sounds simple ?
well, It is that simple.
So let it go.
The outcome may surprise you :)
But whatever the result is, believe that there's a reason for everything, and you don't have to know the reason, but just believe that it's the best for you right now.
so Trust Him and you'll feel so much better :D
So How do you control it ? How do you stop worrying ?
I myself worry too much, I think.
I worry on the littlest things.
One time, I was in Milan, Italy (study purposes) and I wanted to renew my permesso di soggiorno (permit of stay, you need to have this permit to stay in that country, so even if your visa is expired, you can still legally stay there.)
If you've been to Italy, you know how crazy the bureaucracy is.
It was hard the first time I obtained my first permesso di soggiorno, there was a long line , we all had to wait in line hours before the office opens, the bathroom was extremely dirty-unusable, we had to wait for hours and hours and hours to wait for our turn, the officers were unfriendly, plus my Italian was at a beginners level. It was really a horrible day.
So to renew the permesso, all I have to do is go to the nearest appointed police station *if I'm not mistaken, it's been a few years, I forgot*
I got all my papers ready, but I was so worried about going there, I pictured different situations in my head, what to say, what to ask, I was worried that they were going to be mean to me, I was worried there were gonna be a long line, I was worried that I needed to pee but there was no decent toilet, I was worried on the bus on the way there, I was worried as I entered the building.
But it turned out, there was no line at all, the officer was nice, He checked all my papers, and simply told me to come back in 2 weeks time to get my new permesso di soggiorno.
So I was worried for nothing !!! If I had known, I wouldn't have worried so much. I would just relax.
But the thing is, I didn't know so I worried so much.
For most of the situations in our lives, we won't know what will happen in the future, whether it will turn out bad or good.
We all need to live in the NOW.
So in my case, I was worried for nothing, everything turned out fine. but I spent days, hours, worrying and making myself feel miserable.
My feeling worried didn't help anything in anyway.
If I felt worried and things turned out bad, my worry is not going to make things worse or better.
If I didn't feel worried, and things turned out find, it's not going to make things worse or better either.
So I choose not to feel worried, because it is useless.
Worrying is totally pointless.
I'd rather relax myself and hope for the best result that may happen from doing the best that I could possibly can.
So next time, in whatever things I do in my life, I'm just gonna make sure all the preparations is done well, everything is ready, I'm gonna do my best and I'm not gonna worry, I'm just going to relax and hope that everything will work out fine.
I will try that and hope for the best.
And I also know this, in the simplest situation or even at the worst extreme situation, We should leave it all to Him.
In whatever situation, do your best, and everything else depends on Him.
Some things are out of our control no matter what we do, so instead of worrying, just do your best, then let worry go, have total faith.
Sounds simple ?
well, It is that simple.
So let it go.
The outcome may surprise you :)
But whatever the result is, believe that there's a reason for everything, and you don't have to know the reason, but just believe that it's the best for you right now.
so Trust Him and you'll feel so much better :D
Friday, April 24, 2009
Where is He ?
Him who ?
you know who :)
He's everywhere but most of all, He's in you.
Ask Him to use you and make you useful for Him.
Not in a lame kinda way, you can be a Hardcore Rockstar and still be His "hands".
Just take a look at Bono, U2.
Now do you see my point ?
Ask him to use you and He'll shine in whatever things that you do.
:)
you know who :)
He's everywhere but most of all, He's in you.
Ask Him to use you and make you useful for Him.
Not in a lame kinda way, you can be a Hardcore Rockstar and still be His "hands".
Just take a look at Bono, U2.
Now do you see my point ?
Ask him to use you and He'll shine in whatever things that you do.
:)
What to do when you're bored ?
Seriously ? what do you do when you're bored ?
From time to time , we all feel really bored, at just about everything, even at the things we love to do.
It's like you don't have any will to do anything, you don't even feel alive, you're just tired.
You won't even bother to do anything, coz everything seems boring and you'll end up watching reruns of Friends on TV, Reading Celebrity gossip on websites, Doing nothing, and even Eating, and in the end you'll feel even worse, like you've wasted another day.
So, Do you know what you should do at times like that ?
Do Something, Anything at all !!!!!
You have to "force" yourself to start doing something.
(Gardening, Painting, Writing, Practising piano, Cooking, Exercising, anything that you love, anything at all)
I know that Getting off that couch is the hardest part.
But when you start doing whatever it is that you're supposed to do, a tiny will-power starts to grow inside of you, and before you know it, you're starting to enjoy what you're doing and you wonder why you didn't start doing this earlier.
And the you realize that you're doing something meaningful and useful for yourself, you become passionate about it once again.
Try reading blogs/books about motivation to give you a boost.
Get a good book and find a great motivational blogs, some of them are well, kinda boring, but when you do find a great book/blog, it'll make you want to start doing something to be a better person for yourself and for others. The book/blog will make you realize that you're missing out, that you're kinda left behind and it makes you wanna hurry up to catch up in Life.
The thing is, when you've finished reading the book/blog, you're back at square one, not doing anything and waiting for someone to wake you up all over again.
So right now......... WAKE UP !!!!!!!!!!
GET UP !!!!!!
You really need to do something Right Now !!
Do something that you love, something meaningful, something useful.
You know what it is.
Trust me, it'll make you feel a whole lot better.
uhuh.... NOW !!
From time to time , we all feel really bored, at just about everything, even at the things we love to do.
It's like you don't have any will to do anything, you don't even feel alive, you're just tired.
You won't even bother to do anything, coz everything seems boring and you'll end up watching reruns of Friends on TV, Reading Celebrity gossip on websites, Doing nothing, and even Eating, and in the end you'll feel even worse, like you've wasted another day.
So, Do you know what you should do at times like that ?
Do Something, Anything at all !!!!!
You have to "force" yourself to start doing something.
(Gardening, Painting, Writing, Practising piano, Cooking, Exercising, anything that you love, anything at all)
I know that Getting off that couch is the hardest part.
But when you start doing whatever it is that you're supposed to do, a tiny will-power starts to grow inside of you, and before you know it, you're starting to enjoy what you're doing and you wonder why you didn't start doing this earlier.
And the you realize that you're doing something meaningful and useful for yourself, you become passionate about it once again.
Try reading blogs/books about motivation to give you a boost.
Get a good book and find a great motivational blogs, some of them are well, kinda boring, but when you do find a great book/blog, it'll make you want to start doing something to be a better person for yourself and for others. The book/blog will make you realize that you're missing out, that you're kinda left behind and it makes you wanna hurry up to catch up in Life.
The thing is, when you've finished reading the book/blog, you're back at square one, not doing anything and waiting for someone to wake you up all over again.
So right now......... WAKE UP !!!!!!!!!!
GET UP !!!!!!
You really need to do something Right Now !!
Do something that you love, something meaningful, something useful.
You know what it is.
Trust me, it'll make you feel a whole lot better.
uhuh.... NOW !!
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
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