Why are people rude / annoying ?

Ever wonder why some people are just plain ride ?
Ever wonder why some people get offended easily....
so very very easily.... that you wonder what exactly it is that you did wrong that might've made them upset in the first place ?
or you even wonder that they're just crazy..... ;p
ever wonder why they're like that ?
I often do.... I often wonder why they're acting like super a**holes.

But we all need to understand that :
First of all....
Everyone's got a story...
we all know that but we tend to forget that.
They may have financial problems, a sick family member, family tragedy, they've been lied to, they've lost a fortune in business, etc etc... or they're probably just pms-ing ;p
But all those details about them, we don't know....
we don't know what they're feeling inside and those things are affecting those people.

and it's not all about you, so when someone is being 'rude or unfriendly' to you, don't take it personal and assume that they hate you, that they judge you, or that they are discriminating you.
while some people are actually a**holes and they are just unbelievably evil ;p, some just have a lot on their mind and they probably just don't have enough patience nor the energy to be nice.
I guess, It's easier to be bitter and negative and hostile towards others.
of course, some people are using their personal problems as an excuse to be an a**hole.

Some people may even have personal problems of their own.
The feeling of failure is one of the most destructive feelings.
It robs you of everything, I suppose.
You pull back and remove yourself from friends because, well, you haven't accomplished anything that you can be proud of and you're just ashamed of yourself.
After a while, you feel lonely
Then you become a sensitive person, meaning , you get offended easily, you get ticked off easily, you expect others to treat you with a decent amount of respect and kindness, when they don't you become angry.....
the worst kinda of angry is the one you suppress ....
You can't let it out, so it's eating you from inside out.
That's also some of the reasons why some people are acting the way they are.
maybe that particular friend of yours that's been avoiding your phone, or that one who's always trying to get away from get-togethers, or the quiet one that always seem so troubled but pretended to smile, and yes.... that lady in the administration office at your school that's always so mean to everyone, the waiter that spilled wine on you and didn't even apologize, the list goes on and one.

You need to understand why they're behaving a certain way and maybe not get offended yourself when they're being rude to you.
then you ask, "if they feel like such failures, why don't they do something about it ?"
well.... some actually are doing something about it, they're probably working 3 shifts a day to cover the cost of their mom's cancer treatment, they're probably trying to cope with a divorce, they're probably trying to cope with the grief of a miscarriage, they're probably trying to look for a better job than this current sh*tty one, bottom line is.... they're cranky, they're bitter, but they're still hoping for a better tomorrow, they're trying to get out of it.
Some probably already lose hope and it's just sad, they need to know that there's always hope, no matter what.

I think we need to 'open' your minds more and try to understand that a lot of them are trying.....
it's hard to be all smiles and peachy if you're working as a credit card sales person at the mall where you spend day after day, week after week, month after month being ignored by us, as the unfriendly obnoxious people. Imagine how they feel at the end of the day ? the end of the week ?
Of course they want a better job, but in the mean time, they're stuck with this one and they feel like a total failure doing a job that they don't like. In the mean time, they need to help pay for their younger siblings school fee and their parents high blood pressure pills and the rent.
No wonder some of these sales person are so persistent that you feel so annoyed at them pestering you. Don't blame them, they probably need need need to be like that....that's probably the only way they now to achieve their goal, so try to understand.

I know their stories are not the same.....
but a lot of them are.
I kinda feel sorry for them and I wish the all the best.

I'm the person who gets so annoyed when people offer me stuff I don't need, they just bug me.
I get offended when I go to a boutique and the shopkeeper treats me with disrespect.
I hate it when I phone customer service and they're very rude.
But I should know better now....
Everyone's got a story and I should try to understand them and forgive them and just let go.
just let go....
besides.... I have better things to do with my life than being annoyed at 1 person from the mall, and I'm not going to let 1 stoopid customer service operator ruins my mood for a fun lunch.

Little things shouldn't bother us !!!
yes... they may come back and try to rob us of our fun moments, but just shake them off..... don't let the negative feeling take over your fun exciting life.
Besides, we have been rude to others too, we have hurt someone too, whether we realize it or not, so.... if we feel bad about it and we want to change to be better, I think we should allow them the opportunity to change as well, right ?
Remember that Life is short..... fill them with smiles and kindness.
Achieve your dreams, keep on trying one day at a time, till you're finally there.
Make the whole journey fun, spread happiness while you're at it :)
Know this, you'll never run out on positive energy, it's all around you, it's in you, it's always been there and it'll stay there forever.