Do people really change ?

I personally think that people don't change.
period.
well... for most people, that is.

of course, life experiences can always make you change
things that happened to you or your close friends might change your perspective in life, it might change they way you think, they way you choose to live your life.
so you can actually change, but it requires a great deal of 'events' from the outside.

but what if you're life is on the peace lane ?
Nothing drastic ever happens to you so far.
You don't seem to need to change, but people kinda want you to change.
example, you're making a good living, you look good, you have lots of friends but you feel that you can be better, because you're always late, you're a major procrastinator, you're a couch potato, you're lazy, you're greedy, it can be many things that you wanna change in your life but you haven't actually step up to it, yet.
So people say "I've known him for ages , he won't ever change"
and you know what ?
there are lots of people like you, thus the saying "People don't really change"

BUT !!!
People can actually change if they want to.

First, you've gotta wanna change
Second, If you really want to change,
you have to be 'awake' most of the time,
meaning, you're really aware of what you're doing, what you're saying, the effects you have on others
that way, you'll pay attention to what you're doing/saying and you'll always try to be a better person and you'll always be improving yourself.
then.... under that circumstances

YES, PEOPLE CAN CHANGE....
you just have to want it and make an effort and stay 'awake' all the time :)

We are actually Ready

Most people don't realize that we as individuals are equipped with everything we need to succeed in life.
We're all useful, we're all meaningful, even the poorest of the poor can prove themselves talented if they just had more chances in life.
and for the rest of us, the ones that are considered the lucky ones, We need to make every second counts.
Each and every one of us is blessed with individual distinct talent.
We need to work on it, tirelessly.
We need to kick "laziness & procrastination" goodbye
then We need to let go of the fear and the "what if I fail?" questions
and We just need to believe in ourselves and the higher power :)
Then one day, you'll get there..... you'll achieve your dreams.
and hopefully, you'll help others to also get there :D

Easy way to memorize things

Record it and play it over and over again.
It does so work !!!

I was going for a piano exam, Royal exam ? Royal what ? I can't remember.
I think there was a theory test as well.
Anyhoo.... there was so much stuff to remember , and I've forgotton most of them anyway...
okay... easy example.... what is staccato, what is legato, etc

So what I did was read them out loud and record it.
I mixed it with some songs so I wouldn't get bored.
put it on your mp3 player, phone, cd player, whatever.....
I'd listen to it whenever I can, and after a while, I remembered everything.
It was so easy, I didn't even have to try to memorize them.
Apparently hearing things over and over again makes you remember them.

That's maybe why it's not a good idea to listen to songs with destructive violent lyric.
Listen to songs with inspirational and encouraging lyrics instead :)

So...............if you wanna memorize things, record it and listen to it over and over again and mix it with some good songs so you don't get bored.
give it a try.... :)

Take care of yourself !!

I'm not talking about sleeping enough, eating right, bla bla bla....
we all know about that already.

I'm talking about taking care of your body
I know you think you're strong.... but pay attention and try to take care of yourself everytime.

I once helped a friend dragged a heavy suitcase up the stairs, I seriously think that she was only pretending to push the suitcase up the stairs so I was doing all the heavy work dragging it up.
the next day, I ended up hurting my right hip/back.....the pain is all gone now
but the day after that, I was making my bed despite the mild pain and I did experience the 2 second blackout and the super sharp pain on my right hip/back.
and Now.... If I carry stuff that are a tad bit heavy, the pain would come back... mildly but so uncomfortably.
I thought I was strong,.... but I now know better.
If you feel the stuff's too heavy... don't act like a hero, ask for another helping hand !!!
Take care of yourself !!!


Another one,
I was brushing my dog's hair and she heard the door bell rang, so she quickly jumped up as she usually does and started barking.
and guess what ???
when she jumped up suddenly, her nail accidentally scratched my cornea.... yupp... the thin transparent outer layer of your eye.
It didn't hurt, but dog's nail = super dirty , eye = very fragile , you do the math.
I was out of town in the country so we had to drive 1 hour more to see an eye doctor.
I seriously don't know the difference between an opthamologist and and optometrist, hence, eye doctor ;p
So.... he checked my eyes with a very modest tool, a magnifying glasses and a flashlight, yup... an old school flashlight and he prescribed two different eyedrops to be err... dropped ;p each hour alternately for 3-4 days.
I'm so lucky it was a mild scratch and my eye is ok now.

and Don't torture your eyes by staring at the computer for too long !!!
It's not worth the sacrifice, seriously !!!
take a break.... yes NOW....
look away..... blink blink...... rest your eyes !!!!
take care of your precious eyes, you're gonna want them to last forever !!!

So....
I'm talking about taking that extra precautions whenever you do anything....
Don't care what people think, just take care of yourself, take care of your body, you're gonna need it for as long as you're alive.

I'm so wearing that transparent plastic eye goggle the next time I brush my dog's hair and probably even when I paint ;p
probably not, but We'll see :)
and Don't..... don't think you're strong enough to do anything by yourself, you might end up hurting yourself forever, so always always ask for help.
You're not weak, you're being smart !!!

Blogging has taken over my life

I must stop it ;p

So, instead of writing too long and spending too much time thinking about it
I must do quick articles instead

Photos/Pictures/Images on every post - not necessary
if I've got more time, I'll put a little more time n effort to "beautify" my posts.
I know even I prefer to read a post with pics on it instead of just plain writings.
But now, I just don't have the time to add pics to every posts.
Why ?
because I have more than 1 blog.
it seems every once in a while I come up with a new idea for a new blog ;p
I love blogging just as it is and
At first, It was more exciting to find out that you can also make money out of blogging.
but blogging is not making enough money for me right now so I shouldn't spend way too much time on it.
time to move on a bit
love blogging, love writing, I like sharing my ideas and thoughts
but no need to spend a whole day writing an article
so I need to quickly jolt ideas like I'm writing a draft
actually I need to just use this draft instead of writing a new one
make this a new habit.... quick, spontaneous, meaningful

Besides, I'm torturing my eyes by staring at the monitor for way too long.

Okay... this post has taken more than 30 mins now, I really should stop before I start re-reading and re-writing the whole article.
So, I'm still going to blog because I like blogging, love it ? maybe....
I'm even thinking of merging all of my blogs into 1 so I don't have to scatter all my thoughts all over my blogs, but each blogs have different topics and I'd like to stay anonymous, so ;p
but either way, I'm going to limit my blogging time and use my time for something else more productive :)
But sometimes I just can't help not writing and elaborating my thoughts and ideas, so I might not be able to control those "urges" ;p
oh I'm doing it again.

So....
less time blogging and more time to do other things
:)

Stop Complaining and Be Grateful !!

I'm a complainer
I sometimes don't realize that I complain a lot.
But when I do, oh boy.... I feel so guilty....
I complain when things don't go my way
I complain when the weather is too hot
I complain and complain and complain

Instead of making the most of my time and treasure each moment, I chose to waste my precious time doing useless things, watching TV, going to the mall, slacking around.
Instead of complaining, I should learn to be more grateful and thankful.
I should learn to celebrate the miracle of Life and treasure every moment.

This video shows you to be thankful and treasure every wonderful moments, because Life really is short, but in that short time, what's important is how you spend it and how you accept things that you can't change and make the most out of it.
Live Life with gratitude everyday.
Be thankful, Cherish every moment :)


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=th6Njr-qkq0

Why forgive ? Why be good ?

I can't stand annoying self centered obnoxious people
I can't stand rich people who look down on others
I don't like mean rude people

even so....
I'm not perfect myself
I've been rude, I've been self centered, I've looked down on others

What does it have to do with forgiveness ?
I don't know, I tend to wander slightly from the topic, but read on, Forgiveness is coming.
Ok.....
Since I can't stand annoying obnoxious loud people who thinks they're better than everyone.
I choose to avoid them, because I can't stand them, and I think I'm better than them.
That's mistake number 1
I think I'm better than them.
I'm not
Once I think I'm better than them, I'm exactly them.
So....Remember to stay modest and humble and always try to be a sincere person.

Forgiveness.....
You know how sometimes people offend you and afterwards you choose not to hang out with them anymore.
Or when friends did something wrong or lied to you and you choose to "hate" them for life.
and yes.... you think you're a better person than them.
You choose to not forgive them.
Even when you know you won't see them ever again, you choose to "hate" them and everytime the topic came out, you still get "angry" or at least you feel "bothered" over something that happened years ago.

Here's the thing
If you forgive someone, it gives you peace of mind, it lifts your burden, it makes you feel good.
and somehow, it's good for them too. If that someone really felt sorry for what happened and when you've truly forgiven that someone I think they can somehow feel it.
So it's a win win.

then you say
"But they won't ever change, they'll stay annoying and rude and mean to others"
or
"But what they did to me was unforgiveable, I can't ever forgive them"
"They never said sorry"

It doesn't matter......
Some people will never change
Some people do and try to correct their wrongs
Some people just can't say sorry because they're afraid how you'd react even though they really feel awful inside.
But it doesn't matter
Forgiving someone doesn't require conditions.
You forgive them just because it's the right thing to do, you know it is, you just don't want to or you think it's not time yet.
Forgiving someone doesn't mean that they win, that you lose because you stand down.
No.... Forgiving someone means you win over your ego.
Forgiving someone means that you realize that Life is beautiful as it is and you shouldn't burden it with hatred and anger.
Forgiving someone means you're growing as a person.

If you can't forgive someone just yet.
Then Forgive them for your own good.
Why ?
Because when you forgive, you eliminate the anger, hatred that's been burdening and bothering your mind.
When you Let go and Forgive, you somehow "cleanse" yourself of those negative energy.
Forgiving is not the same as Forgetting, you may forget something but when you're reminded of it, you still get angry, it's not forgiving.
Forgiving someone is Letting go and you're not bothered anymore. You're at peace.
It's good for your mind, for your soul, for your health.
You already know how stress, hatred, anger affects our body and our health.
So do it for your own good
Forgive for your own good.
You'll see that you breathe freely
You'll see it'll put a smile on your face.

How to forgive ?
Know that you're not perfect
Know that you also made mistakes
Know that you also have offended someone
Know that you have wronged someone
and after you realize that you're also flawed, you realize that you want to right your wrongs
You want to be a good person.

Then try to forgive, just Let go and Forgive
but
You have to want to forgive
It's got to be sincere
You have to Let go

If you still can't forgive
then ask for His help in prayers
Say that you really want to forgive that someone but you're still angry and you can't at this moment and Ask Him to change your heart.
It's a process..... but the moment you ask for His help, you're on your way.
and It does get easier, really.

For me....
I'm not perfect I know
I'm proud, I still feel I'm better than most people, I still look down on others
I'm not perfect
Sometimes I don't even care, my pride tells me that I really AM better than most.

But then....
my 11 year old dog has a tumor
She's already had 1 operation last year and it went well.
It was the worst time, I cried before the operation, I cried during and after hoping that she'd be fine.
The week after the operation was also bad because I didn't know what would happen to her. She was weak and I had to apply cream to her stitches and gave her antibiotics everyday.
She's fine now and she looks very healthy , still running around everywhere.
But the tumor is still spreading and it looks like she may need another operation to remove the tumor.
The vet can't guarantee a safe operation to remove the tumor due to her age.
I don't know what to do.
So I gave her the best food that I can
and I pray for her.
I pray that her tumor shrinks and goes away.
I pray that she stays healthy for many more years.
and as I was praying for her, I just realized,
or maybe I was "made" to realize
How can I pray and ask for my dog's health, How can I ask for such a favour, How can I ask for a pure miracle while my heart is still filled with hatred and anger ?
Even though it's a minor hatred and anger, it's still hatred and anger none the less.
How can I ask Him for something precious when my heart is still "dirty" ?

and Who am I anyway ?
Who am I to ask for a miracle and not give something back in return ?
Who am I to demand a miracle and still act however way I want to ?
Who am I to just ask him to do stuff for me and not do something back in return ?
Who am I ? period.

The least that I can do is a be thankful, be a good person and live according to His ways.
then I do what I can to achieve what I pray for.
The rest I leave to His Hands.


Think about it....

How can we ask something good to happen to us when we still wish something bad to happen to others that we hate.
So you don't wish something bad to happen to them, but If something bad do happen to them, you just shrug and maybe smile a little and say "they deserve it"
If that's who we are, How can we ask for something good to happen to us ?
How can we ask for anything at all ?
Even if we don't care about others, If we don't care what happens to others that have wronged us, Even so.... it's still wrong.

As for my dog & me,
My dog is doing ok now. She seems very healthy.
The tumor is still there and it's still growing.
There's nothing else that I can do except to love her and feed her the best that I can.
and I Pray for a miracle :)
I try to be a good person, to forgive others, to have a sincere heart.
so that when I pray for her, I come with pure intentions without any hidden or oppressed hatred towards others, that I come with a "clean" heart.
and that's all that matters :)

So Forgive
Forgive others, Forgive yourself
Let it Go and Forgive
Be a good person
Have a good heart, a pure sincere heart.
It's a journey, Stay in the path.
Listen to the voice within, it's in everyone.
Listen to Him.
Be good :)

God Bless you