Instant Happiness

So you're feeling down and nothing can cheer you up
or you're having a major problem and you can't seem to find a solution, so it's bringing you down, day after day.
How do you get back to being happy ?
You think "yea I'll be happy, when this problem's over"
"yea I'll be happy, but right now, I'm miserable"
No....you actually BE Happy Right Now.
It doesn't matter what problems you're in.

If someone can instantly annoy you and bring you down to the valley of sulkiness with just one insult.
then you can also SNAP back to happiness right that instant.
YOU CAN !!

How ?

Okay... Hear me out....
I was really tired from work, feeling really exhausted physically n mentally, plus it was hot and humid and the toilet was really dirty.
Anyway.... So I just sat there, staring at the TV, killing time, waiting to go home.
I didn't even watch the TV, it was like I was just sitting there silently, quietly, alone.
And my mind drifted away.... about everything that's good in my life, as simple as a stranger helping me pick up my luggage from the conveyer belt at the airport, about what I have, about my blessings from God, about my family, about miracles in my life, about good times and laughter with family and friends, etc etc.... It just flowed.
and Suddenly I felt so grateful, so blessed, so happy, so content, so calm, so at peace.
Just like that. Instantly.
It was amazing, I didn't even know where it came from.
I felt really really good, like a cloud of happiness just embraced me and I felt really grateful and blessed. It was very peaceful.
So there.... true story... my own experience.

1. If one insult or whatever, can bring you down instantly
then one praise, one prayer, one Will to be happy, can make you happy, instantly !!
Yes it can !!
Let go of the Negativity and anger. You just have to let the positivity overcome you instead.

2. When you will it, or when you're just there, being in the moment, realizing life, or counting your blessings and thanking God. Then you'll see that Happiness, Gratitude, Peace surrounds you and you'll feel incredibly good.

Try it....
don't Force it,
just Be there.... and you'll see :)

How to handle Anger and Annoying people

How to stay calm even though rude-annoying people are "harassing" you on a daily basis ?
How to be patient even though you know they're lazy and slow ?
How to make them understand that they're wrong when they think they're right ?
How to stay positive ?
How to stay Happy ?

I even get angry when people move my stuff....
I get angry when people drive slowly in front of me, angry annoyed....
I get annoyed at rude snobbish people, etc etc
so I suppose my problem is a lil bit bigger than yours.
I don't know where to get a spot on advice
People don't seem to be bothered as much as I do by all the small things
I pray to God, o yes I do, to give me patience and tolerance and positive energy.
Do I get them ? Oh No....
not yet at least.

So, I was watching "Evan Almighty" the other day,
yea yea... it's not a new blockbuster movie, but it was on TV, so I watched it
and Morgan Freeman as God, apparently gave a really good advice.
Here's the clip :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RkQnQFeW53I&feature=related

and transcript :
God : Let me ask you something...
If some one prays for patience, you think god gives them patience? Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient?
If he prayed for courage, does god gives them courage? Or does he give them opportunities to be courageous?
If some one prayed for the family to be closer, you think god zaps them with warm fuzzy feelings? Or does he give them opportunities to love each other?

So.....
I can't stand some people at times, even in my own home, they're there to annoy me 24/7.
Most morning, I'd wake up happy, then I get super annoyed in the kitchen coz the housekeeper overcooked the vegetables, again.
Or
How a certain someone loves watching cheesy soap opera on TV with maximum volume
etc
This little things bother me, Why ?
Food - I know I'm eating non nutritious overcooked food,
TV - I know cheesy soap opera are plain useless, and it's on sooo loud....
I can't tolerate these things and it's making me so annoyed and angry.
yes little things like toothpaste cap left in a puddle of water on the sink. yuck

But as I pray for patience and tolerance and happiness, How would I know if I've attained patience, tolerance and happiness if I didn't get to "test" them out on those annoying circumstances ?
for example :
If I drive out, sky's blue, road's clear, no traffic, everything's perfect, How does that say to me that I'm a patient person ?
How would I know if I've become patient if I don't get stuck in traffic for 3 hours ?
I can only know that I've become patient if I got stuck in traffic for 3 hours with no water and no toilet, yet somehow I don't curse, I don't get angry, but I'm just there, waiting patiently, calmly, or even better, making good use of my time (cook up ideas in my head, listen to audiobook, etc) and maybe.... pee discreetly to a bottle/a bucket when noone's looking ;p

How would you know you can control your anger if no one ever makes you angry ?
You're able to stay calm and collected when you're problem-free, but that changes the second someone annoys you.
You become easily irritated, impatient, offended, angry, you might even yell or hold it inside until your face turns red with rage. That's not healthy.
The question is : Can you stay calm, clear headed, kind, respectful, in control of yourself, when you're angry ?
No ?
Try !
Be in control !
So what if you fail the first time ? the third time ? the tenth time ?
Try and try again !
So you fail the first few tests. Guess what ? Here's another one to make up for it. Can you pass the test this time ?
in Life there will always be problems, always, you can't escape that and you can't hide forever either.
Life's just gonna throw random uncomfortable situations at you until you've finally managed to choose to be patient and actually be patient.
There will come a day when you'll become patient, effortlessly and you'll see that you've become a happier person, so grateful for all the blessings in your life.

For me, I'm still trying, but at least I'm starting
You should start too.... now :)

So that's the secret, that's the advice.
It's a process and it might not be the easiest thing, but you'll definitely get there when you choose to be and when you want to.
Be awake, Be Aware, and you'll find these little things won't bother you anymore and then you'll find pure happiness. It's that simple.

Sometimes I wonder why my late grandma was never an angry grumpy person,
She never hold a grudge against others that were rude/disrespectful to her.
She was an active helpful person, never lazy, never a complainer.
She's always patient and full of smiles. I guess she knew the secret all along.
Miss you Popo :)

Motivational Speakers are ex-failures

You see......

Failure = Low self Esteem
Accomplishments = Confidence
(u have stay humble n modest, tho)

and Some Motivational Speakers are ex-failures
yup... that's why they know so much
because they've been there
they just know
and they've found a way to get back on their feet
we should all too :)

How ?
Hard Work, Effort, Determination, Faith, Patience
and By starting NOW :)

Find out How you work best

Finding out how you work best is crucial
It makes you more productive, more creative, more more more
and You're more comfortable during work.....
actually when you Love your work then it's not work anymore :)
and when you're more productive and creative, you get more work done, you wow yourself with the result, in the end.......................... YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF
You feel satisfied that you've done such a good job
You get that boost of confidence, still humble, but confident :)
You wow yourself
It's a win win

So........
How ?
Ask yourself this : "How do I work best ?"
- Do you work best alone or in a group ?
- Do you need a healthy competition so other people's talents can encourage you to do better, to be better ?
Maybe a role model to inspire and motivate you.
(I need healthy competition, maybe that's my ego talking ;p but other talented people makes me wanna be as good, or if possible, better)
- Do you work better in a quiet environment / noisy / doesn't matter ?
- Do you work best during the day or at night ?
(I find myself work better during the night, but I'm now trying to sleep right & fix my body rhythm, goal is : sleep early, wake up early --> tough to achieve but I'm trying )
- Do you need kind words or honest blunt & sometimes harsh critics to prove them wrong ?
or you may need both :)

Ask yourself more questions !
Know yourself !!
Know How and When and Where you are at best and what you need to support you to reach your dream goal.
Then when you find all that out, YOU START !
Surround yourself with what you know will push you forward and Start.
Just Start !!
Not on the beginning of the month, not next Monday, not tomorrow, NOW !!

and give yourself solutions if you know the culprit of your problem :
Lazy much ?
- If you're lazy, even though you like your job, but you're just lazy and easily distracted,
Fight it.
Even famous artists, designers, businessman, photographer, etc still get that lazy attack
Just Fight it !! Force yourself at first, and after 5 mins into it, you'll be so into it you wonder why you were lazy to start in the first place.

- Create a situation where you MUST do it
If you lack motivation / will power to fight Lazy, then Create a situation where you can't run/hide/postpone/stall.....
Promise a Deadline !!! That usually work like a charm.
Work for someone else, so either you do or get fired ;p
Declare you goal & deadline, so you'll face humiliation if you don't finish / succeed.
etc

- Have Patience
Don't rush things and Have Patience
Don't expect to work hard for 2 weeks and expect instant success with multimillion dollar deal
Just stay motivated, Have discipline and start by doing... Do do do do and do
Lazy will come back... Fight it
Losing Hope and Disappointment might appear, Don't let it shake you.
Just keep working hard and enjoy the process. Focus on your dreams !!
Know in your heart that if you do things right, if you keep at it, you will eventually get there.
and I do hope you get there :)

Do you feel like a failure and you can't get out of it ?

After a while, a long while, you forgot about your goals in life.
you forgot about the stuff you love doing / passionate about
you forgot what it feels like to have that spark of excitement
it used to sparked even just by thinking about it, now.... u forgot what it's like
you forgot what they feel like, to live life filled with hopes and dreams, accomplishments and confidence, to be good in something u love doing.

Instead you live a zombie life
You constantly feel like a failure.
you can't sleep at night,
you don't feel like waking up in the morning because there's nothing to look forward to,
wandering doing nothing during the day, waiting for the golden opportunity to be presented upon you out of thin air, or maybe winning the lottery ;p

The more you let it, the more it ruins your life, the more "lost" you get.
You just forgot what it was like.
You don't know what you want anymore, you are without purpose/mission.
Life becomes boring, you forgot when the last time you laughed so hard, out with good friends, feel good about yourself, like you've accomplished something good in life.

You choose to hide
You sink deeper
You avoid friends,
you're too lazy to do anything,
you're not sure what you want anymore, you kinda want it, but not really coz life seems "fine" right now..... "fine" you say ??
You're in denial

Really ask yourself what you want
because deep down, you know
It's haunting you, but you're afraid to go there
You're afraid you'll fail and embarrass yourself in front of everyone.
You're afraid you're not good enough, you feel you're not ready.
you say to yourself "Now is not the right time" as an excuse
your suppress the fear, the guilt.
So you postpone, you stall, you keep it for later

Days become Months become Years
5 years have passed, 7 years, 10 years have passed
Everyone else has moved on
Friends and Enemies have moved on
Younger siblings and cousins have moved on
They got jobs, good jobs, got promotions, got houses, got married, got kids, more kids.
and you're still standing in that same spot, stagnant
No Life, No Life

Don't you think it's time to change that ?
What's that ?
You started to think maybe you're not meant to shine.
WRONG
You feel it inside you, everyday, every minute.
You know you are meant to shine,
You know you're meant to do something more, something meaningful, something you're passionate about, something wonderful.
It's building inside you but you keep on suppressing it.
Cause of fear ? You're scared ? of what ?
of failure ? of hard work ? of discipline ? you fear that so you choose to live a lifeless life ?

Don't you want to be successful and happy ?
Don't you want to make your parents proud ?
Their life & dreams, not to mention money, spent on giving you the life they never had, but you're accomplished nothing.
So what if you have crappy parents or no parents..... So what ? Don't you wanna prove to the rest of the world that you CAN succeed ? That you have such will power and determination to make your dreams come true ?
Don't you wanna wake up excited everyday ?
How you can't wait for tomorrow because it's always gonna be better ?

So get your lazy ass off that chair.

Your dreams....You've dreamed them too often.
You've imagined winning awards and being interviewed by Oprah way too many times.
Time to get into action.

It's hard to start I know.
Lazy will linger in the beginning, or probably forever
What ? you're gonna let Lazy win ?
Fight it !!!

You'll feel lonely and start to think everyone's having fun and you have to....work ?
You'll keep telling yourself, "one more day of relaxing is ok"
But it's not !!!
Fight it !!!
Stay the course, Focus on your goal.

Know what you want and Go for it !
- Make a daily schedule, Set your priorities right.
- Make lists of things to do to occupy your time so you won't spend useless time watching gossip shows or crappy movies.
Don't spend too much time browsing other successful people's blogs & feeling down, wishing their lives was yours.
Focus on your Life !!
Know that it's never too late, never !
and There's always Hope, always !
Your journey starts now
It's your choice
Have Faith, Work Hard, Have Fun

Stick with your daily schedule
Say NO to friends and families who ask you out for daily casual shopping/lunch/dinner, etc
Focus !
Do a 9 to 5 thing if you're working from home.
Have Discipline
Schedule yourself a leisure time, but when you're working --> Work !!
Don't get distracted.
Work but Have Fun doing it.

You also need that list of useful things to do
Why ?
So you don't end yo doing useless stuff
So you always know what you're supposed to be doing !!
Don't end up wasting time because you think you don't have anything to do today.
There's always something to do.
Learn something, Use your brain.

So.... it's all up to you
Your choice
All you have to do is to Start, Right Now :)
Use your brief time on earth well
Good luck & Have Fun !

Why we buy motivational books and never read them

Yea...why is that ?
we want to be better, we buy books
"oh this one will help me be a better person"
"this one will help me be more motivated"
"this one bla bla, that one bla bla"

At first, we read em and we're all excited and ready to change
what's dat....change, you say ? mmm.....change, ey ?

next book u read, u're like....
"I know all this stuff already.... yea yea...."
next book u read, u're like.....
"boringgg......true, but boring"

next book u read will be fiction, science fiction, chicklits (what?), comic books, gossip tabloids
why ?
becoz it's easy.....they don't require you to change
u don't feel guilty if u don't change
especially w the gossip tabloids, u see other people mess up
so it's okay if u mess up a bit

Wait....
So you don't read motivational books coz u don't want to change ?
because it requires effort from your part ?
Let me get this straight, u keep buying motivational books, because u want to change, right ?
but when u're face with the situation of having have to change, u simply dun wanna ?
You want to, but you don't want to ?
Confusing huh ?
That's why u have a pile of good motivational books dusting away somewhere in your home.
You keep saying to yourself, "I'll read it when I have time" but you never seem to have time... Really ? you dun have time to read, but you have time to watch that soap opera / celebrity gossip channel ?
Do you really not have time, or are you really just finding excuses not to read em ?

but here's the thing
motivational books are there to remind yourself of what you already know
u know u gotta have discipline
u know u gotta love life
u know u gotta live life to the fullest
u know u gotta be happy...u gotta choose to be happy
etc etc
u know all that already.....but u just don't do them.
What ? Do you really think in order to be better, you need to read the latest-number-1-selling-book from a certain someone ? and until you do, you can....slack ?
Do you really think that book will give you all the answers to your questions ? the specific techniques to change your lazy habit ?
Yeah some books are that good, but you don't need to read em all, coz if you do, u'll end up reading every book in the universe and you won't start living your life.....u're just back at stalling.

Motivational - self help - inspirational books won't do you any good if you're not willing to change for the better.
and your not reading it is to avoid feeling guilty for not changing today, besides, you already know most of the stuff anyway.
you're just stalling, postponing, avoiding, whatever you may wanna call it, it's the same thing
so it's your choice,
u dun have to read all the books there is
No point of reading all the ways and techniques to be motivated, no point of reading how to be happy if you're not willing to forgive and let go
So it begins from within you, not from a book.
Books might inspire you, motivate you to a certain level, after that it's all up to you.
Do you want to change ? for the better?
It's your choice !!
Take action Now

Don't Fear Life !!

Don't fear life and its challenges !!
Face 'em and triumph !!

For most of us in the land of opportunities.
Reality is supposed to be better than our dreams.
not the other way around.

What are dreams ?
Dreams are your guide, that's where you wanna go, what u wanna achieve.
but then u wake up and u make that dreams come true. u work on it.

But a lot of us dwell in our dreams for too long..... dreams become our comfort zone
Be it sleeping, daydreaming, watching movies, they're all just your hiding place, a place where you can escape reality.
You neglect Real Life and you just keep on dreaming wishing that one day your dreams would come true without any efforts whatsoever.
Those dreams are not real !!

Make your dreams come true in real life.
That's what you're supposed to be doing.
Hey... we're all meant to shine, remember ?

It's a journey,
enjoy every brief unpredictable exciting moment

It's a big creative world out there, explore.
Play it safe , but Don't play it too safe either.
Go solo, explore new possibilities, find what you want.
Most of us tend to go where the crowds go, or where our friends go.
Find out what you really want and Go there.

Don't fear Life and its challenges !!
Face em and Triumph !!
:)

so Make your Reality better than ur dreams.... Now :)

Don't you dare waste your fucking time.

Gabrielle Bouilane
Stage 4 cancer - died January 2010

"Do not wait. If you don't start today, get the fuck up walk out the door and change your life to the best it can be, then when?. Don't you dare waste your fucking time."


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gePQuE-7s8c

Don't let this be one of those videos that inspire you for 2 seconds but after you're done watching it, you're back to your lazy self.
Get off that couch.... Start your life
When it's too late.... there's no turning back
Live your life,
you know what your dreams are, work on it, really work on it
You'll soon find out that it's not that hard.... Life is Fun
But you've got to start now !!
Now !!

Read the blogs first !

Old unupdated blogs sometimes have great content
(they're like old books that have great content)
don't get turned off by the date of the last post
Try to see what they have to offer first.
u might find urself a jewel.

Danger at the Gym

So we all know using equipments can spread germs
and especially those mats in group classes.
Imagine hundreds of sweaty people reusing the mats :(
I'd bring my own, but the portable mats are so thin
(I have to use mats because when I bruise easily ;p)
I probably should bring my own and lay it on top of the thicker gym mat,
but rolling my mat would cause both surface to touch, so.... kinda pointless ?

Anyhooooooo..................
My concern right now is LOUD NOISE at the Gym
yes.... they play the music so louddddddddd
I do Body combat, Body pump, Body whatever....
and it's deafening.
what's worse, at my gym, the speaker is not of a very good quality so it's loud and pitchy.
Hey... I'm not cheap, it's a well known gym ;p
The instructors may already have damaged their hearing somehow for listening such loud music everyday.... so they don't think the music is too loud.
I can ask them to turn down the volume, but to do it before every class ?
I'm just afraid everyone's gonna be annoyed at me.
I'm thinking ear plugs would be the solution for me, except, it's gonna be hard to socialize with the others before the class starts.
I'd be like "what ? wait, I need to get this yellow thingy out of my ear first"
and they'd be like "man this girl is so weird"

A lot of people have discussed this in forums
and Research have been conducted that loud music can damage your ears.
Especially if you're a regular clubber or concert goers.
Protect your ears !!!!!

I so wanna get the musician earplugs that's custom made to fit your ear
yes... musician wear earplugs/filters to protect their precious hearing
they filters the loud music so you can still hear them clearly, but not as loud
and yes, they're way more expensive
So I'm thinking to try the foam earplugs first,
although I haven't tried them yet.

Info :

Waxy earplugs may be dangerous
http://atypicalgirl.wordpress.com/2008/06/28/psa-beware-the-waxy-ear-plugs/

Good video on how to fit foam earplugs
You have to roll it into thin tube and insert it in....
I have read the instructions on the box but I didn't really know that the foam would roll so thin
I haven't inserted anything up my ears yet ;p but this is a good video on how to correctly insert a foam earplugs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPNPZJingZA

I tried buying that 30 cents foam earplugs with cord I found at a hardware store.
yeaa... don't buy them, I tried rolling them into a thin tube, it won't roll down, it retains it bulky earplug shape. I know.... 30 cents ;p
I haven't bought the ones sold at health food store/pharmacy tho

Always use your own camera !

So whenever I go to a party or a gathering with friends, we'd take pictures, right ?
I've said to myself over and over again "USE MY OWN CAMERA"
but sometimes I think, oh she's a good friend of mine, I see her all the time, I'll definitely get the photos of our New Year's party from her.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO !!!!

For some reason, a lot of people just don't send you the photos.
They don't send it to you via email, they don't upload it to facebook.
They just keep it in their computer and it's not like they look hideous in those pics, they're just plain lazy.

AAAArrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
It's just so annoying..... we had a little get together the other day and my 2 friends brought their cameras.
So I'm like, you are so sending me the photos and they go, of course, I'll even upload them on facebook tonight.
that was 3 weeks ago.
I've asked them to upload just at least 1 photo.
nothing !!!!!
and they're not like super busy or anything,
Well, one of them is kinda busy but the other one is online on facebook almost everyday.
So I seriously don't know why they don't upload the photos....

The moral of the story
If you want to have the photos,
Always bring your own camera, Always use your own camera !!!
period.

Why are people rude / annoying ?

Ever wonder why some people are just plain ride ?
Ever wonder why some people get offended easily....
so very very easily.... that you wonder what exactly it is that you did wrong that might've made them upset in the first place ?
or you even wonder that they're just crazy..... ;p
ever wonder why they're like that ?
I often do.... I often wonder why they're acting like super a**holes.

But we all need to understand that :
First of all....
Everyone's got a story...
we all know that but we tend to forget that.
They may have financial problems, a sick family member, family tragedy, they've been lied to, they've lost a fortune in business, etc etc... or they're probably just pms-ing ;p
But all those details about them, we don't know....
we don't know what they're feeling inside and those things are affecting those people.

and it's not all about you, so when someone is being 'rude or unfriendly' to you, don't take it personal and assume that they hate you, that they judge you, or that they are discriminating you.
while some people are actually a**holes and they are just unbelievably evil ;p, some just have a lot on their mind and they probably just don't have enough patience nor the energy to be nice.
I guess, It's easier to be bitter and negative and hostile towards others.
of course, some people are using their personal problems as an excuse to be an a**hole.

Some people may even have personal problems of their own.
The feeling of failure is one of the most destructive feelings.
It robs you of everything, I suppose.
You pull back and remove yourself from friends because, well, you haven't accomplished anything that you can be proud of and you're just ashamed of yourself.
After a while, you feel lonely
Then you become a sensitive person, meaning , you get offended easily, you get ticked off easily, you expect others to treat you with a decent amount of respect and kindness, when they don't you become angry.....
the worst kinda of angry is the one you suppress ....
You can't let it out, so it's eating you from inside out.
That's also some of the reasons why some people are acting the way they are.
maybe that particular friend of yours that's been avoiding your phone, or that one who's always trying to get away from get-togethers, or the quiet one that always seem so troubled but pretended to smile, and yes.... that lady in the administration office at your school that's always so mean to everyone, the waiter that spilled wine on you and didn't even apologize, the list goes on and one.

You need to understand why they're behaving a certain way and maybe not get offended yourself when they're being rude to you.
then you ask, "if they feel like such failures, why don't they do something about it ?"
well.... some actually are doing something about it, they're probably working 3 shifts a day to cover the cost of their mom's cancer treatment, they're probably trying to cope with a divorce, they're probably trying to cope with the grief of a miscarriage, they're probably trying to look for a better job than this current sh*tty one, bottom line is.... they're cranky, they're bitter, but they're still hoping for a better tomorrow, they're trying to get out of it.
Some probably already lose hope and it's just sad, they need to know that there's always hope, no matter what.

I think we need to 'open' your minds more and try to understand that a lot of them are trying.....
it's hard to be all smiles and peachy if you're working as a credit card sales person at the mall where you spend day after day, week after week, month after month being ignored by us, as the unfriendly obnoxious people. Imagine how they feel at the end of the day ? the end of the week ?
Of course they want a better job, but in the mean time, they're stuck with this one and they feel like a total failure doing a job that they don't like. In the mean time, they need to help pay for their younger siblings school fee and their parents high blood pressure pills and the rent.
No wonder some of these sales person are so persistent that you feel so annoyed at them pestering you. Don't blame them, they probably need need need to be like that....that's probably the only way they now to achieve their goal, so try to understand.

I know their stories are not the same.....
but a lot of them are.
I kinda feel sorry for them and I wish the all the best.

I'm the person who gets so annoyed when people offer me stuff I don't need, they just bug me.
I get offended when I go to a boutique and the shopkeeper treats me with disrespect.
I hate it when I phone customer service and they're very rude.
But I should know better now....
Everyone's got a story and I should try to understand them and forgive them and just let go.
just let go....
besides.... I have better things to do with my life than being annoyed at 1 person from the mall, and I'm not going to let 1 stoopid customer service operator ruins my mood for a fun lunch.

Little things shouldn't bother us !!!
yes... they may come back and try to rob us of our fun moments, but just shake them off..... don't let the negative feeling take over your fun exciting life.
Besides, we have been rude to others too, we have hurt someone too, whether we realize it or not, so.... if we feel bad about it and we want to change to be better, I think we should allow them the opportunity to change as well, right ?
Remember that Life is short..... fill them with smiles and kindness.
Achieve your dreams, keep on trying one day at a time, till you're finally there.
Make the whole journey fun, spread happiness while you're at it :)
Know this, you'll never run out on positive energy, it's all around you, it's in you, it's always been there and it'll stay there forever.

Do people really change ?

I personally think that people don't change.
period.
well... for most people, that is.

of course, life experiences can always make you change
things that happened to you or your close friends might change your perspective in life, it might change they way you think, they way you choose to live your life.
so you can actually change, but it requires a great deal of 'events' from the outside.

but what if you're life is on the peace lane ?
Nothing drastic ever happens to you so far.
You don't seem to need to change, but people kinda want you to change.
example, you're making a good living, you look good, you have lots of friends but you feel that you can be better, because you're always late, you're a major procrastinator, you're a couch potato, you're lazy, you're greedy, it can be many things that you wanna change in your life but you haven't actually step up to it, yet.
So people say "I've known him for ages , he won't ever change"
and you know what ?
there are lots of people like you, thus the saying "People don't really change"

BUT !!!
People can actually change if they want to.

First, you've gotta wanna change
Second, If you really want to change,
you have to be 'awake' most of the time,
meaning, you're really aware of what you're doing, what you're saying, the effects you have on others
that way, you'll pay attention to what you're doing/saying and you'll always try to be a better person and you'll always be improving yourself.
then.... under that circumstances

YES, PEOPLE CAN CHANGE....
you just have to want it and make an effort and stay 'awake' all the time :)

We are actually Ready

Most people don't realize that we as individuals are equipped with everything we need to succeed in life.
We're all useful, we're all meaningful, even the poorest of the poor can prove themselves talented if they just had more chances in life.
and for the rest of us, the ones that are considered the lucky ones, We need to make every second counts.
Each and every one of us is blessed with individual distinct talent.
We need to work on it, tirelessly.
We need to kick "laziness & procrastination" goodbye
then We need to let go of the fear and the "what if I fail?" questions
and We just need to believe in ourselves and the higher power :)
Then one day, you'll get there..... you'll achieve your dreams.
and hopefully, you'll help others to also get there :D

Easy way to memorize things

Record it and play it over and over again.
It does so work !!!

I was going for a piano exam, Royal exam ? Royal what ? I can't remember.
I think there was a theory test as well.
Anyhoo.... there was so much stuff to remember , and I've forgotton most of them anyway...
okay... easy example.... what is staccato, what is legato, etc

So what I did was read them out loud and record it.
I mixed it with some songs so I wouldn't get bored.
put it on your mp3 player, phone, cd player, whatever.....
I'd listen to it whenever I can, and after a while, I remembered everything.
It was so easy, I didn't even have to try to memorize them.
Apparently hearing things over and over again makes you remember them.

That's maybe why it's not a good idea to listen to songs with destructive violent lyric.
Listen to songs with inspirational and encouraging lyrics instead :)

So...............if you wanna memorize things, record it and listen to it over and over again and mix it with some good songs so you don't get bored.
give it a try.... :)

Take care of yourself !!

I'm not talking about sleeping enough, eating right, bla bla bla....
we all know about that already.

I'm talking about taking care of your body
I know you think you're strong.... but pay attention and try to take care of yourself everytime.

I once helped a friend dragged a heavy suitcase up the stairs, I seriously think that she was only pretending to push the suitcase up the stairs so I was doing all the heavy work dragging it up.
the next day, I ended up hurting my right hip/back.....the pain is all gone now
but the day after that, I was making my bed despite the mild pain and I did experience the 2 second blackout and the super sharp pain on my right hip/back.
and Now.... If I carry stuff that are a tad bit heavy, the pain would come back... mildly but so uncomfortably.
I thought I was strong,.... but I now know better.
If you feel the stuff's too heavy... don't act like a hero, ask for another helping hand !!!
Take care of yourself !!!


Another one,
I was brushing my dog's hair and she heard the door bell rang, so she quickly jumped up as she usually does and started barking.
and guess what ???
when she jumped up suddenly, her nail accidentally scratched my cornea.... yupp... the thin transparent outer layer of your eye.
It didn't hurt, but dog's nail = super dirty , eye = very fragile , you do the math.
I was out of town in the country so we had to drive 1 hour more to see an eye doctor.
I seriously don't know the difference between an opthamologist and and optometrist, hence, eye doctor ;p
So.... he checked my eyes with a very modest tool, a magnifying glasses and a flashlight, yup... an old school flashlight and he prescribed two different eyedrops to be err... dropped ;p each hour alternately for 3-4 days.
I'm so lucky it was a mild scratch and my eye is ok now.

and Don't torture your eyes by staring at the computer for too long !!!
It's not worth the sacrifice, seriously !!!
take a break.... yes NOW....
look away..... blink blink...... rest your eyes !!!!
take care of your precious eyes, you're gonna want them to last forever !!!

So....
I'm talking about taking that extra precautions whenever you do anything....
Don't care what people think, just take care of yourself, take care of your body, you're gonna need it for as long as you're alive.

I'm so wearing that transparent plastic eye goggle the next time I brush my dog's hair and probably even when I paint ;p
probably not, but We'll see :)
and Don't..... don't think you're strong enough to do anything by yourself, you might end up hurting yourself forever, so always always ask for help.
You're not weak, you're being smart !!!